In relationship/couples counselling I find I am more of a facilitator than in one-to-one counselling and psychotherapy. I encourage an open discussion between the couple without judging, taking sides or taking over. Obviously, if a conflict became too heated I would intervene. I welcome couples from all backgrounds, cultures, sexual orientations and belief systems. LGBT couples are welcome, as are couples who are married, separated, co-habiting, living separately or just dating.
I may explore with the couple past relationships, including with their parents and siblings and historical family dynamics. This can often give helpful insight into current conflicts, why the couple relate to each other in the way they do and subsequently developing more positive ways of relating to each other.
The stresses and strains in today’s modern, fast-paced life can exacerbate any underlying family, money, work, social, health etc issues and this can lead to a couple becoming ‘stuck’ in a cycle of conflict. There may be an obvious reason such as a bereavement or loss of some sort, an illness, an affair or abuse, the list is endless. It may not be obvious why the same arguments/situations are repeating themselves, negative repressed thoughts and feelings may be playing out from our childhood without us realising. It can be very helpful to talk to an independent, supportive, caring and non-judgemental person on equal terms in a safe and confidential environment.
It doesn’t matter how big or small the problem is, there is no right or wrong and there is no time limit on the amount of sessions you have. I will accept you as you are, respect you for who you are and hopefully provide a helpful and healing environment for your work/life/relationship balance.